The Anniversary Un-celebration.

It was an–unaversary. (I just watched Alice in Wonderland and was at the un-birthday part)…. Yes, I’m a weirdo that watches Disney movies on a Saturday night while blogging.

We didn’t truly party, but here’s the lowdown on how we decided to celebrate… This was due to having 2 of our 3 kiddos under the weather, and thus we skipped the generous sitter offers we had.  We were bummed, but made the best of it.

Call us crazy, but we seem to like to DIY on anniversary.  Maybe it’s because we married on MLK weekend, and we usually get an extra day, who knows.  For example.  On our very first wedding anniversary, in our second home, we had this brown paneling all over.  We didn’t like how dark it was, and decided to paint it. It took 2 coats of Kilz primer, and 2 coats of paint.  We were high the whole weekend on paint fumes… kinda.  Here’s the best part, a year later, we tore it ALL out and re-did the whole basement, added a 100 square feet, and a bathroom.  But the even bigger kicker, was we tortured ourselves once again, by buying paneling and doing it all over again.  :)

Our first home, basement after 2nd re-do of paneling…

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Fast forward to this year.  Good old Anniversary #9.. We took the day off after our anniversary, (it was a Friday) and at Joe’s suggestion, we utilized supplies we already had to update the kids bathroom thinking we could do if for $200.00.

Why?

Well when we bought the house it looked like this.

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Now let me state, that it’s not horrible, and is livable.  But, the fan was broken, and remained on all the time, and it wasn’t really my style.  However, it was fully functional, and had been updated at some point in the house’s 35 year life.

I decided to make due with what we already had, and with the help of a dear family friend, we made it more like this…..

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Sorry about the bad photo.  It’s the only one I could find. We changed the curtain, and added colorful towels and decor..

Here’s a shot of some of it.

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Now in the photo above there a a few things to note: The faucet.  The whole house had these, and they are very hard for little hands to get on and off.  They drove me crazy, and I felt it discouraged hand washing.  Which from this post, you now know is a big deal and concern for us.  :)

Also, note the colors of the wallpaper.  They just don’t scream all boy.  And, really they shouldn’t.  The prior owners had one of child of each gender, and the kids shared the space.

The bathroom stayed like this until 11 months later.  We came home from work to find this….

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The poor nanny was cleaning, and somehow pushed too hard, so off went the toilet paper holder.  Now this wasn’t the reason we decided to update, it just started my brain working on it.  :).

In all reality, the pool had just closed for the summer, and I had a bee in my bonnet to “do something”  So, thinking it would be no big deal, I decided one afternoon, (when I was getting amazeball naps), to rip off all the wall paper.  When you are as impatient as I am, this is never a good idea.

Why?

Because, with 3 kids, working weekends, and hubby having 2 jobs (at that time), it meant that it wouldn’t really get done in a few days or even a week.  Try 5 months.

Here is what it looked like the night of our anniversary when we started…

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Here is the light, which I wasn’t a fan of.

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Also, if you look back at this shot, see the laminate floor and trim, it was plastic, and once removed, just yucky.  You will see in the shot after this one.

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Here is the glue and if you look closely, you can see how they wall papered over wall paper behind the toilet.

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So lovely right?  Here is where I will leave you.  Reminding you that we agreed beforehand that we would try to only spend $200.  Do you think we made it? Have you ever done your own renovation?  Did you stay on budget?

Dear Husband…..

This morning around 5:30 am, like clock work, I heard Max.  You were squished in the middle of our bed; laying on your side, snoring softly.

I thought to myself “I’ll tend to Max, so Joe can sleep a little longer.”

And, I did.  I then crawled back into our bed, laying opposite you completely.  For your head was at the headboard, and mine at the foot.  We weren’t alone.  It seems like we never really are anymore.  Between Jack creeping in when we have no clue, or Luke snuggling up to the very edge to be next to you, or Max at my side, nursing for a 5am snack.  Even Oreo, ever present at the side of the bed.

This morning was different though.  You see, 9 years ago this morning, I woke suddenly and sat up.  Excitement pulsing through me; like a kid at Christmas time, I didn’t want to sleep another wink.  I just wanted to get the day started, for I knew at the end there would be vows, a cake, and some dancing.

Back to today, Luke had a fever, we fretted about if we should take him in, knowing full well that it was croup.  We are after all, veterans at this whole parenting thing… Right?

In the shower he went with you, as I paced beside the curtain, we were discussing if a doctor appointment was necessary, and insurance cards, and would it spread.  My heart ached selfishly because we’d both have tomorrow off.  A rare Friday, together,  FILLED with plans to finish things, and eat out at a special place.  Saturday too, we had tickets to our favorite Gopher Hockey.  Now, what?  A day at home, taking care of the babes.

Yes, I’m selfish.  We rarely take a night out.  I think in the last year alone we have gone less then 5 times.  I hope and pray we change this.  Not that we are unhappy, just that we need it more.  I need to be near you without a little voice asking about how the world works, whats for dinner, and what friend can play. I need to talk of things other then sports for them, bills, work and such.

I looked high and low for a recent photo of us together, and there was one from Dec. 2012.

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Other then that, they are fairly rare.  Many of just you and the boys, or me and them.  :)  I also found one from the summer at a wedding, but minus Max.

I mean to thank you for the life you’ve given to me by this marriage.  I read recently on a blog about how many people say Marriage is Hard.  I completely disagree.  Being married to you is Easy Peasy Lemon Squeezy.  It really is.  Loving you and being in love with you are like breathing.  They are automatic.  The butterflies are still there.  Life is the hard part. The curve balls it throws, the heartache of loss that life brings, the ups and downs.. That is life, but without you, it would be unbearable.  Something my emotional self can’t even begin to entertain.

So, I say it here, that even though it took us over an hour of being awake to find 30 seconds to acknowledge this special day with an embrace and kiss, and although our plans will not even come close to the plans we made, we will be together.  This is all I need.  To be near you, to see your face, to tell my very best friend how my day has been, and vent my needs.  To admire what you are wearing, to suck in the smell of you, to hear your heart beat ever so steady when I am snuggled up close.

I thank Him for you.  I thank you again for this life we have made.  And, like the song we danced to stated 9 years ago,

“I wanted someone like you, someone that I could hold onto.  And give my love until the end of time.  But forever was just a word, a’ I’d only heard about.  But now you’re always there for me, so when you say forever I’ll believe…….Baby, you’re my Destiny. You and I were meant to be.  With all my heart and soul, I give my love to have and hold.  And, as far as I can see you were always meant to be, my Destiny”  

Thank you, for living up to what Destiny brought, and for being so much more.  For loving me, with all my crazy, for adoring me, with all the faults and lack of confidence.  For just being you and being all I’ve ever needed.

I love you Joey, Happy 9th Anniversary.

xoxo

 

So this is love….

For our anniversary Joe and I had decided that we would get necklaces with the kids names on them.  Which we did.  We got them for a small steal.  They are surgical steel and were $20.00 each.  We really hadn’t planned to get anything.  Then we made one more purchase.

This…. and it’s amazing….

BUT…..

Yes, there’s a but.   I don’t like that the fact that the little cups cost a small fortune, so we invested in a k-cup.  Which makes it much more manageable.

What do you think goes lovely with a lovely cup of coffee???

They are cream cheese with white chocolate chips.  love, Love, LOVE

 

Numbers

20….years ago we met

11….years ago we re-connected and I decided to start really believing in fate.

8….years ago today we said I do.

Year 7 was full of bliss, stress, and more then anything change.

Thankfully, there was no itching :)

J, I know the last few months have been tough, but more then anything I wouldn’t want anyone but you by my side.  I love you.  Looking forward to year 8 and all of it’s possibilities.   xoxo